Special guest writer Stephen Roberts, a stellar product engineer in the medical device industry.
Efficiency is doing things right; effectiveness is doing the right
things. – Peter Drucker
My director told me shortly
after starting, that the most challenging assignments are the ones that we
learn the most from and tend to define our careers. I have recently learned
that to be true with a coworker that has been the most challenging individual I’ve
ever had to work with. Despite it being incredibly stressful, I’ve learned so
much. I was only able to learn from the experience because I am lucky enough to
have a mentor that cares enough to tell me not what I want to hear, but what I
need to hear. He reminded me that you can learn twice as much from a fool as
from a sage. The point isn’t that my coworker is a fool (he’s actually
incredibly smart), but the message remains that when “…we take [wisdom] from
only one place, it becomes rigid and stale. Understanding others… will help you
become whole” (Mako Iwamatsu, “Uncle Iroh”).
As humans, we are naturally
inclined to think we know more than we actually do. Worse still, we tend to
seek facts that support what we already believe (google ‘confirmation bias’ if
you’re interested). It is important to understand the lens through which we
view the world. It is the filter that turns the facts of the world into
opinions and emotions. Once we recognize this, we can try to understand
alternative points of view.
If you think competing points of
view are a nuisance -- if you’d rather everyone just listen to you because you
know what’s best -- what comes to mind when I mention a dictatorship? Our best
leaders encourage others to think for themselves, to challenge the status quo,
and contribute to the body of knowledge.
I used to worry about being
apathetic. I wasn’t one to lose sleep over what many others seemed to. When I
was in second grade, things were pretty normal. I went to school and worried
about grades, friends, and how to spend my time on the weekends. My father
passed away from cancer that year. On that day, everything I cared about
several hours prior no longer existed for me. I remember everyone telling me
“It will be ok.” But I didn’t want to hear that. At the time, it was NOT going
to be ok. It took a long time to realize that it would be. One thing I’ve
carried with me is that perspective. When the stresses of life and work begin
to pile up, I’ve made it a habit to slow down and take inventory of what’s
really important, understanding that everything will, in fact, be ok.
I now realize I’m not an
apathetic person, I am just very selective about what I spend my energy caring
about. I owe this epiphany to my difficult coworker. What he cares about is
very different from what I care about. And that’s a good thing. If we all had
the same thoughts, passions, and worries we wouldn’t have been able to come so
far as a human race. We’re all at a different stage in life, with different
experiences, backgrounds, and beliefs. Neither is right or wrong, just
different. It is this difference that makes us great. Diversity of thought
challenges us to move forward. It is the natural selection of innovation. Next
time you are too quick to judge another’s perspective, try to learn something
from it instead.
What you choose to spend your
energy on is a question of efficiency. There is a finite amount of energy that we
can expend in a lifetime, a year, a week, a day, etc. Choose where to allocate
your efforts and let others concern themselves with all the things between the
lines. You can’t worry about it all and be effective. What’s important to you?
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